I became a empty nester a couple of years ago. And this has been one of the biggest challenges for me in my life.
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Parenting my daughter and being her Mom was the most important part of my life and was my purpose. Without that purpose, I have found myself flailing and lost.
Going to Hawaii and having the opportunity to visit and “take care of” my adult married daughter was just what I wanted.
As I was knitting last night- I had an aha moment That hovering and being a helicopter Mom was NOT what Kelly needed. So I will have to learn to tread the line to be that helpful houseguest vs. Taking charge.
I have been so amazed at how well my daughter and her husband have been creating a great life for themselves. They have such a loving and supportive marriage and have proven that one doesn’t have to be rich to live in Hawaii.
I will continue to try to reestablish my role in this chapter in life. Being Kelly’s Mom is still an important part of it- but I think the role morphs more into mentor vs caregiver. I have to be careful to not give unsolicited advice.
As I sit here listening to the Roosters crow- I am hoping they wake Kelly and Donovan up so I can enjoy a morning cup of Tea with them. I am enjoying every moment of this time with family.
Feel free to share tips for parenting an adult married child. 😀
